I spent over eight years in the dating app trenches. Eight years of awkward first dates, almosts, ghostings, and “he’s probably just busy at work??!!” pep talks from friends. These days, I’m thankfully (finally!) off the market. But my DMs are still full of beautiful, smart, hilarious women asking the same questions I once screamed into my pillow: “WHY IS THIS SO HARD!?”
I spend a good chunk of my days playing Agony Aunt, replying to messages from women (some I…

